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Entries from January 2010

The African Connection

Wednesday, 13th, January 2010 · 1 Comment

Well I have been thinking about Africa a lot recently, so I thought I would share my African connection with you…..

You will need some background first….. I studied in London, and stayed on after my degree doing various McJobs and ended up living with my boyfriend at the time, now after 4 years our relationship came to a sticky end, it was headed that way anyway, I just didn’t really have a reason to go at the time, said boyfriend helped matters along by me catching him up to no good on our living room floor with another girl, while he thought I was asleep in the next room… (he features in the popular Boyfriend Checklist)

Anyway… back to my story, just after this life changing event, I had to take some holiday from work so I called my dad and the conversation went something like this:

Me: Hi dad, i have some holiday to take on these dates I was thinking of coming up to see you what are you up to?

Dad: I’ll be in Africa, but I would love you to come?

Me: OK

Dad: call these people for some flights

(short break where I call travel agents and book flight to Africa)

Me: alright I’ll see you at the airport in Gambia then, love you…..

Dad: love you too, see you over there.

Now my flatmate (who I later discover, is slightly deranged, we’ll call her DFM deranged flat mate) returns I tell her what’s just happened and she says can I come, and I say why not? (now hindsight is a wonderful thing, but that story I am saving for another post)

so we fly to Africa, I leave London with an enormous backpack and butterflies in my tummy not knowing what to expect, and land in The Gambia West Africa where everything is very very different…. My dad is already over there and has been for a few weeks, he meets us at the airport and bundles us into the back of a car through s cloud of african taxi drivers and baggage boys…….. I say car (it has 4 wheels and is mostly held together by what looks like kitchen lino.)

We drive for a few hours into Senegal…..

That drive was the flicking of a switch for me, the world is an amazing place and I am quite happy just to be in it, and drink every glorious bit of it in; the embracing heat; the way the tarmac always looks sticky in those temperatures, but the best and everlasting memory was looking behind us out of the car at the clouds of orange dust on the road and just appearing out of the dust were children running after the car and waving and shouting at us because we are white…. from that moment on there has always been a little bit of Africa in my heart.
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The reason that my dad was over there was music, a few years previously he had discovered African drumming and more specifically Sabar drumming and was hooked, and he and some friends were having some intensive lessons with a master drummer and griot from Senegal Modou Diouf. My dad had been to Africa several times before and they were an established feature in the village by the time we arrived, I can just remember all my senses being bombarded with all these amazing sights, sounds and smells I was also trying to decide what to do with my life? After this, when I get back, my old life was going to have to change…..

I decided I needed a fresh start, a new beginning… so I decided to pack up leave my job, my flat, my no good boyfriend and London and move to Nottingham where my good friend Tim would help me rebuild my life…. I distinctly remember DFM telling me I would not be able to do all that as I wasn’t strong enough… hmmmm it shows you how little she actually knew me!

But I came back from Africa a new Woman, and I have never looked back!

I have been back a few times, my dad’s connection grew. Inspired by a festival in Abene the village in Senegal where we stayed on my first visit, my dad instigated another music festival in a village just back over the border in The Gambia called Kartong… you can read more about that here

Kartong Festival in turn has inspired a series of European events called African Linx you can read more about those here.

Africa has coloured my life, with bright, bold, infectious vibrant colours and I am so glad that I have a little piece of africa in my heart……

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A little girls birthday project

Wednesday, 13th, January 2010 · 1 Comment

This was something I made for a little girl friend of Alpha's for her 3rd birthday.
 
thanks to this brilliant blog that shows you how, I have to say it was a lot easier than it looks and very very satifying to make I would reccomend having a go….
I am tempted to make one for myself too, I think it would be easier than trying to finish the real house!

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At the end of a very long week…..

Saturday, 9th, January 2010 · 3 Comments

Well another day and infact week of housewife/motherdom done… and I am enjoying a hot coffee and was just about to go and have a bath when LP annonces he is off the use the loo and he may be a while….. This is infact the story of my life….

I often feel like I am bottom of the list….. I come after 2 children 1 breadwinner a mobile phone, a laptop, and a goldfish…. under all that lot is me, just quietly mopping and cleaning and feeding and washing and tidying away (maybe not that quietly really?)… It’s got pretty bad of late not bothering to brush my hair wearing the oddest selection of clothes a lot of which are still maternity…. It’s supposed to be a new year all upbeat and empowered?

somehow I have morphed into some other woman? I look like Nora Batty and Compo’s love child if she had been raised in a cellar in Royston Vasy wearing a red Tina Turner wig…… don’t worry people the epilator is on charge…..

I had my bath, tired to relax but it’s a bit tricky with Buzz Lightyear stareing and smiling at you from the end of the bath, but Buzz turned his back, and a glass of wine later relaxing done, reflecting done…….

I have a choice……. this morning I chose to be sad, tired, worn down, fat, unkempt, weepy and quite pathetic… (LP even offered to go out in the blizzard to buy choclate in an attempt to chear me up)

and now? well I am not feeling that great, but I am not feeling that bad either….. I am not beyond help, I can loose weight, tame the Tina Turner do, Stop wearing maternity clothes, try and find an identity?

I think this is where my problem is…..I am not just Mummy? and I am definatly not a yummy Mummy (I hate that expession!! it only comes from Mum’s who say things like is’nt it rewarding… and Phelix only eats organic…..and they have spotless children, and are dressed imactualy and you want to beat them to death with thier designer pushchairs) I however am nomally sporting the latest in streatched tracksuit bottoms and a half eaten crumpet…..I think that’s going to be big next season…… anyhow, back to my identity….. Under all this, BC (Before Children) there was a woman I quite liked? Leah, she was funny, liked having fun and adventure and always had an opinion, was always curvey but knew how to dress them!

I am not sure where she is now? Hey Leah, if you are reading this call me, we should catch up!

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I am back……..

Tuesday, 5th, January 2010 · Leave a Comment

Well, here we are, new year, and I am trying to get back to normal!!!, or what I would like normal to be….

The pre christmas buildup and actual event was, challenging this year…. on top of that my net book suffered death by a glass of milk at the hands of the now nearly 3-year-old…. hence the lack of blogging therapy….

but let me update you, so LP’s work was pressured so he was out of the picture right up till the week before christmas, and then he fell quite spectacularly ill and was in bed for 5 days right up till christmas day.

we were supposed to be going to LP’s Mum’s for christmas day along with SIL and family, a proper family get together with MIL would have both her children and all 3 grandchildren….. but we managed about 2 hours with LP swaying and looking a sort of grey green colour so it was a bit of an anti climax! and I even forgot it had been and gone a few days later!

But when all is said and done Alpha had a great time, he had a mini kitchen which sits nicely in the corner of the main kitchen and he can help me cook… I think it is now better equipped then our main kitchen.

New Year was actually one of the bast I have ever had I think, the last few years LP has had gigs and I have been pregnant and about to pop on 2 of them so anything was going to be good really…… LP and I put the kids to bed and watched TV and drank Long Vodkas…. a drink I learned about when I was 20 and worked on a show at Edinburgh Festival ( another day another Post!)

anyway, shot of vodka, shot of lime cordial, dash of Angostura bitters and lots of ice topped up with lemonade or soda… I would recommend them….. the night ended with a shot of absinth, not the best idea but the bottle has been lurking at the back of the cupboard for a while now and LP had never tried it… it’s actually worse than I remember but the last time I had it was in an underground bar in Prague and not a half-finished kitchen in Nottingham….. rose tinted specials I think!

Anyway, New Year over…New Years Day, we tried Xmas mark 2 with LP’s Mum and had a nice time then it was home decs down,, 1st wave of operation get rid of Christmas tree needles before Iona eats them all…… (there is still a long way to go, they get everywhere!)

So here I am filling in the calendar for 2010… and planning how much weight I am going to lose while eating a piece of cheese, and that I am going to remember everybody birthdays and send cards this year, and get the paperwork in order and learn to drive and so on and so on, same old intentions, but I really should do less writing down and more actual doing…..

Oh yeh and on christmas morning I asked LP to marry me and he said yes!

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